Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight.” Psalm 51:4
I’m not a theologian, I don’t read Hebrew or Greek, and I’m not a subject-matter expert about much of anything. There.
But sometimes I’m burdened about something so much, that I’m compelled to step out of my comfort zone (as a warm-fuzzy encourager), and share my heart. It’s my sincerest prayer that through today’s post and future Titus2sdays, you may grow in the Lord, pleasing Him in every respect, and His name would be glorified.
Even though it’s quite clear that the desire of human nature is to control and be in control, I think women struggle the most with this battle. I know—I am one.
Genesis 3:16 reminds us why we’re so encumbered:
To the woman he said, “I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”
When boundaries are set, we instantly to try to step over them, climb under them, or reason our way around them. The apostle Paul discusses this inclination extensively in Romans 7. Specifically, verse 7 says,
For I would not have known what coveting really was if the law had not said, “Do not covet.”
So, just as the Word revealed Paul’s coveting as sin, we too face an uncomfortable fact: Our desire for control is sin. We don’t want to be ‘ruled’ by anyone, God or man. Perhaps because we don’t trust others to make the right decisions on our behalf. Or, we don’t trust God. And that equates to sin.
But desiring to control is more than not trusting God, it’s attempting to be God. One of my favourite authors, Paul D. Tripp, discusses this dilemma:
- The desire to be God rather than to serve God lies at the bottom of every sin that anyone has ever committed…. Sin is rooted in my desire to live for me. 
- Self-sovereignty is the dream of every sinner. It’s hard for us to trust ourselves to the wisdom, power, and control of another. We want to write our own drama, and we want to be the central character of the story. But the spiritual reality of the universe is that we are not authors of our own story. Our story is a part of a larger story written by the Lord. In this story we are never on center stage. That is a position to be occupied by the Lord alone. 
- You and I can change no one. Ultimately, personal change comes from only one source: the gracious act of a powerful God. When people try to change one another, typically the focus is on behaviour. Yet behaviour is not really the issue…the root problem is the heart. When we attempt to do God’s job and change someone’s heart, we only cause frustration to ourselves and pain to the other person. 
So try to control others according to our limited wisdom or for our benefit, we become self-serving, we hurt others, and, we’re sinning against God.
“Against You only, I have sinned.”
Thankfully, the Lord is gracious. He is compassionate, wise, understanding, and above all, forgiving. He is able to help us. We can and must depend entirely on Him, yielding our hearts and minds to His control.
What a wretched woman I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God—through Jesus Christ our Lord!! Romans 7:24
Let’s pray together about this during the week and ask ourselves:
Where do I need the grace of God to say no to the temptation to step over God’s boundaries and control?
How have I sinned against the Lord by trying to control others?
Dear Lord, Thank you for the victory we have through Christ! We are incapable of living out this Christian life apart from you. Sometimes it’s so difficult, we feel like quitting. Please meet us first thing each morning and all day long, with your mercy and grace, to enable us to relinquish our behaviours, thoughts, and words to You. Your kingdom come, Your will be done…not ours. In Jesus’ powerful name, Amen
Join us next Titus 2sday for more discussion on control, trust, and the help available through Jesus!